hushichoLevel: 16 | XP: 365
I totally agree with this -- so often, people set goals they have no hope at all of achieving, either because they believe it's expected, or because they just don't have a practical approach to goals and achieving them. New Year's resolutions are a good idea in concept, but so often they fail in the reality...just like crash diets and such. It could certainly be argued it's just not in human nature for most to do something they don't particularly want to, and change is always difficult; even people who give up something for Lent regularly only do so for forty days, and most of them don't even make it if it's something they like particularly much.
Gradual change tends to be much easier to adopt for most people, and setting less grandiose and more immediately achievable goals as you've discussed helps too. When one feels like one has achieved a goal, that encourages one to keep doing so. That's one huge reason I feel it's crucial to allow oneself reward for doing things like working at the necessary things one must do -- with consistent rewards, no matter how inconsequential they seem, they can act as incentives to keep at it.
I've always encouraged an approach of, at the start of every day, making a list:
What I need to accomplish, the things that I absolutely must do today; if I do not do them today, I must do them as soon as possible.
What I would like to accomplish; these are tasks that aren't strictly essential, but it would really help to complete them.
What would be really great to accomplish; these are things I don't really expect, even if I'm going exceptionally, to finish, but I'll be very pleased if I do.
Even if it's only a mental list, I find it helps immensely in actually getting things done. It's easy to make this list as one prepares breakfast, during one's shower, whatever one may do as a routine daily. I agree completely that it's important not to overreach. Know your limits, don't try to go crazy with an outrageous goal. Be realistic and honest with yourself, and set some goals that you can achieve in a shorter period of time, with consistent work. Sometimes you might discover that a goal is more demanding and elaborate than you had initially believed, but that's okay; being flexible and able to adjust to new data and circumstances is also important. It's also important to be able to assess the new situation and determine whether you need to adjust your projected work time, or whether you need to put that on the back burner for later, when you're more able to address it, and try to do something else for now.
These are such crucial things few people, artist or otherwise, ever seem to learn.
BogusRedLevel: 53 | XP: 1330
Thank you so much Hushicho for adding to this conversation! Your insight is very useful for our community. I'm sure others will benefit from it.
I've taken on a similar habit of maintaining a bullet journal where I put down my tasks for the day. I also check in on my goals once a month to assess progress. Perhaps I could do a blog post about that.
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