Topic: It's time for some self care
Topic: It's time for some self care
With all the news of the Harvey Weinstein sexual assault allegations and seeing my Facebook wall flooded with #MeToo posts, it's taken a toll on my mental health.
As an empathetic person, when my friends and family hurt, I hurt. My friends have come forward sharing their stories of rape and sexual harassment. These are stories that often happen but are never talked about and it's been a long time coming that we finally start a conversation about it. What especially hurts is the victim blaming comments from others asking victims why they didn't come forward sooner or criticizing the decisions the victims made. This is not ok. The fault rests on the perpetrators of sexual assault, not the victims.
If you have been a victim, no matter how minor or major the impact on your life, know that you are strong, you are loved, it was not your fault, and I believe you.
For those of us with mental health challenges, this can be a particularly anxious and/or depressing time. This is a great time for us all to exercise self care. I'm giving you permission to take time off, take a break, lighten your load, go easy on yourself. I know that's the kind of advice I'd like to hear so I'm giving it to you.
Here are some simple tips for self care. Many of these I practice regularly to curb my anxiety which I've been struggling with for the past several months...
Go for a walk, a bike ride, a hike, roll down a hill of grass, or whatever. Time outdoors amongst green foliage has been shown to help improve mood, especially for those with ADHD.
If you're like me and initially disregarded meditation as lame, just give it a try for a couple weeks. I've been meditating regularly now for about 6 months and it really helps me avoid negative thinking. Here's a great 10 minute meditation video on YouTube.
That's what the internet is for anyway, right? Looking at pictures of cute animals has been shown to improve mood. I especially like the /r/aww subreddit which has a mix of cute animal and people pictures.
Avoid social media and the news
Easier said than done but I'm trying my best not to look at news feeds too much and limit my social media usage. There are some apps that can help with this.
Talk to someone
Whether it be a therapist, a friend, or a co-worker, reach out. Many of us are feeling low right now but there are good humans out there and we will be there for each other. Don't feel like you're inconveniencing others because many people are good natured and want to help. Who knows, they might need someone to talk to, too.
Finally, give yourself permission
It can be difficult for us to prioritize taking care of ourselves with all the other responsibilities in our lives. As they say in the airplane safety messages, always put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. We must care for ourselves before we can effectively care for others. Know that you are not alone and we are here for each other.
If you have more ideas for self care, please share them in the comments so others can benefit as well.
Hello Harlequaint. Glad things are going better! Thanks for giving us an update.
What kind of job did you get?
Hi DragonAce. Do you mean in the forums? I might be able to figure out a way to do that. I'll check
Topic: Hey, all!
Hello RoostOwls! Welcome to PaperDemon!
I'm your humble host. As MaskedDragonNamedLin said, it's pretty friendly here. And we try to keep it that way. If you have any suggestions on how to keep the community going, let me know.
Also if you have any drawing or writing tips, please do share. I like to share that kind of info with the rest of the members through our social channels and mailing list.
Thanks for the tips MaskedDragonNamedLin. I will totally do an outline next time.
Oh sweet. I'm glad the storyboarding article was helpful! Thanks for letting me know that. Sometimes I have no idea if anyone is reading those things so it's great to hear back about it.
No worries about the adult section. Not for everyone which is why we keep it separate.
LazyDragoness. Thanks for participating in the conversation I didn't give much notice about the livestream. No worries for missing it. The videos are still on facebook so anyone can watch them whenever.
Yay glad you like the community feel.
I'll try to do another livestream either late this week or next week. I had a pretty busy and stressful week last week and have some tight deadlines this week to work through. I'll let everyone know when the next livestream is going up.
You shouldn't feel bad at all for not being active here. It's totally understandable to take a break from being online. That is really common. Taking care of yourself is more important.
I'm really sorry to hear bad things happened to you. I've been reading and watching videos lately learning more about GamerGate and the toxic way women have been treated online over the last few years. I don't know if what you experienced was similar to that at all but that kind of thing really upsets me and I never want it to happen here.
I realize it might be personal so if you don't want to share that's totally ok (also feel free to send me an email directly at email@example.com) but I'd like to know if there's anything in particular we could do on PaperDemon to prevent that sort of thing from happening here.
Thanks for the notice about tumblr. Totally unaware that things were toxic there too.
Yep we do have a twitter handle. I tend to keep the Facebook page more up to date because we have a lot more engagement there.
It would be super awesome having your contributions to the writing section. We're all here trying to get better. I feel pretty mediocre about my art. There's a lot I have to improve still. And that holds me back from making art more.
Hey PaperDemon members!
I just did a live video session on our Facebook page talking a bit about the PaperDemon community and where I see it going in the future. I also talked a little bit about myself and part of why PaperDemon is so special to me.
I think I was too nervous and boring. Maybe next time I'll drink a shot of Jack Daniels before I go on air to loosen me up. I am really much more entertaining in person, I swear! Also don't mind my messy office, haha.
But anyway, check it out. Let me know what you'd like to hear about next time.
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I'm working on my figure drawing right now. My knowledge of anatomy is sub par. Also I need more work on realistic faces.
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