Parents And Their Favorites

I totaly agree with you. Its just like me here at my place. I keep askin stuff once in a whil and my mom promises she going to buy it. And when she buy it she buys it for my lil bro who dont want it. Just like greed she sais you have the money go work and buy itm and that pisses me off. While working my ass off I have to pay my school books while my lil bro Is sitting at home playing runescape all day long and eating himself ton death he doesn't have to pay anything. sometimes I want to slpap him in the head and when I do he runs to our MOM and yells that  i slapped him so that I got punished. he's 14 years old isn't that too old to run to his MOM?

People,taht`s so wrong.... Hell,i`d be all angry and give a piece of my mind! Hm,Greed,show the comparison of your sis` and yours closets to your motehhr.Have you done that?Maybe if she sees the facts maybe then she`ll open her eyes?I want to swear now...Really..

Jilly,I remember your problem.You`ve talked about it before... Nothing`s changed? Hm.Have you talked about hese thoughts with your father?You should.If he doesn`t understand,then.....Maybe your brother should tell something to your father?maybe he`ll listen to his opinion? God,I hate things like these...I can`t understand parents who are blind to obvious things...

well, I've mentioned it numerous times. I've counted our clothes that we have in our closet. She outnumbers my stuff almost 3 to 1.

Yeah I've told my dad about it he doesn't seem to want to change but oh well I'm learning to deal with it now.

Greed,you showed the difference to your mother and she still doesn`t change her mind??????? Oh c`mon ppl!God,I`m pissed now... What does your sister say about that?Maybe she should say something to your mom?

Susie is right,begin save money and move out if nothing changes...

Jilly,your dad agreed with your opinion and doesn`t want to change anything???????? That`s just...... To agree that you`re hurting your own child and not do anything about it...... If I were you,I wouldn`t just get along with it.... You poor thing!*hugs tightly*

This topic seems to anger me a great deal more than perhaps it rightfully should.

Greed, the fact that your mother doesn't buy you as much stuff as she does your sister does not necessarily mean she likes her more than she does you. Do you honestly measure your mother's love for you in the things she purchases?

Often, parents find children of their own gender more easy to relate to. In Greed's case, it might be that your mother, being a girl your sister's age at one point, feels more comfortable buying her things, particularly clothes. It might even be that you seem difficult when it comes to your taste in clothing. In Jill's case, perhaps your father finds it easy to connect with your brother because he too was once like his son: a boy just killing time. Your mother may feel like she's losing touch with you and latches on to your brother to try to protect him from the harsh outside world and keep him at home longer.

Frankly, these things happen. I feel bad that some of you feel somewhat neglected, but I think everyone feels that way from time to time. It's something to be expected, I suppose.

As for me, I'm definitely not the favorite. In fact, it's pretty well-known that my mother doesn't like me much at all. When I was sixteen, I had to move out of my mother's house because she was very emotionally abusive toward me (though she's living with me again now, and I suppose the abuse continues).

Aside from my mother, I live with my sister and my aunt. Everyone else notices that my mother is, for whatever reason, very angry and hurtful toward me. She tells me that she hates who I am, that I'm a bitch, that I was a better person when I was five years old, that I've ruined both her life and my own. But it's just something that happens, and I try to be patient; I think every kid deals with this to some extent, and I have no reason to think of my situation as any worse than someone else's.

I'm grateful that I'm not in the same boat as my friend: she and her sister were severely physically and emotionally abused for as long as they lived with their mother, but their brother got absolutely everything he wanted without question. Their mother was very open that she didn't love them, but adored their brother. That is a case of favorites.

And though I don't care about material things, let it be known that my mother brings home a gift for my sister almost every other day and seemingly only gives me the things my sister doesn't want. And as far as clothes go, my mother hasn't bought me any clothes in a few years; if I want clothes, I work for them, and there's nothing wrong with that. I have no right to have the things I want for free, and my mother isn't responsible for my desires.

Speaking of one pair of jeans, last time I had only one pair of jeans, my mother took them and tore them up to make shorts for herself.

I'm sorry for my lack of sympathy, but my stance is clear on this: if the home situation is bad enough, if you want something bad enough, if you begin to feel bad enough, you'll make it change. I think that it's sad when parents play favorites with younger children because it emotionally warps them in many cases. And of course, it only adds to the problem that the child cannot provide for themselves when their parents don't. 

But if you're old enough, I think you should focus on ways to make yourself less financially dependant on your parents so that it doesn't matter what they do or don't buy for you. Chances are, if you're already hurt over their "playing favorites," you're probably already emotionally independant enough that it shouldn't cause you any mental trauma.

The end.

On Sep 10, 2006 9:50 pm, Animeiac said:

....? But my parents aren't alchoholics... or even actually hit me HARD... my dad'll crack me once across the ass with a belt really hard. And My dad hasn't touched alchohol since my big bro was born. My mom only has a sip once in a blue moon, but never has actually gotten drunk.

if you see my closet compared to hers... you'd understand alot better. I finally got a couple a pairs a jeans, so thats nice.

My apologies. I didnt' mean to make it sound like that. I just wanted to give you a listing of phone numbers of speciality groups that might help in case your's or anyone else's problem gets any worse. This was just a suggestion.